With the recent rise in gas and food prices, increased visibility, and disasters across the country such as floods, fires, and hurricanes, it can be difficult for many people to even think about happiness. But, regardless of their circumstances, happiness is something that everyone longs for and seeks. And while it may seem strange, the obstacles and tragedies of the above tragedy do not affect everyone’s happiness in the same way. Some return to normal happiness within a few days, while others are sad and depressed for months at a time. Why? Recent research seems to provide an answer.
In the early 1990’s David Lykken of the University of Minnesota decided to look at the question of whether we have control over our happiness. She selected 4000 twins, some equals, some relatives, and explored how happily they differ. The results of this study led him to realize that about 50-percent of our happiness is inherent (and thus we cannot directly control it), while the remaining 50% are “happy” happiness.
On the basis of this, he said, each of us is “happy,” and no matter what happens to us – good or bad – we eventually return to our normal home. It is as if it were bound to control us. We may be happy or sad, but soon we are back in our own place. It’s like a “permanent place” that most people live in. And now there is ample evidence to support his view. Several studies have shown that although lottery winners rejoice for a few weeks or months after a hurricane strikes, they eventually return to their former glory. This also applies to people who have suffered from a chronic illness or other condition. He may have been paralyzed for the first few weeks, but he soon recovered and returned to the place he had been buried soon.
Does this mean that we are forever lacking in our values, and that we do not have the opportunity to change – in particular, to grow? The answer is no. And it’s easy to see why if we could see a 50-percent portion of our happiness that doesn’t depend on our genes. Studies show that about 10 percent of these are due to social factors, such as wealth, culture, education, family, and job security. But this leaves 40%, and is controlled by our thoughts, feelings and actions. And we have authority over this sector; Instead, we can use it to change our mind.
So how do we raise it? The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps.
1. Find more enjoyment in life.
2. Finding ways to make our lives meaningful.
3. Be very busy with what we do.
The list of things that can help you achieve this (and do this, raise awareness) is as follows:
1. Be confident. Every morning when you wake up, talk to yourself a little – tell yourself you will be happy that day, and believe strongly that.
2. Be cheerful. In particular, smile , and speak as if you were happy.
3. Enjoy your work. While it’s good, “love” your work, as well as your hobbies.
4. Cultivate kindness. It should be consistent and organized. Being kind to others makes us feel good, and it adds to our happiness.
5. Count your blessings. Think about all the good things that have happened to you, and the good things that have come to you. Make a list of the same in a diary as often as possible.
6. Enjoy life’s pleasures. Take time to enjoy the little things.
7. Learn to forgive. Do you harbor resentment? Get rid of them.
8. Take care of your friends.
9. Take control of your time. Set goals, and make sure you achieve them and achieve them.
10. Take care of your body. Make sure you get enough sleep and exercise.
11. Learn to reduce stress.
12. Forget about saving a lot of money. It will not buy you happiness.